December 8, 2017 at 12:13 pm #4595
It still amazes me how much Malia is like me. One of the things her teacher has said about her is that she’s afraid to fail or to make mistakes. I’m totally the same way. But with Malia, its a bit of an obstacle for her in her learning. She’s afraid to take chances when reading words and is always looking for clues in our facial expressions to see if she’s getting it right.
I’ve been allowing her to make mistakes in her spelling and reading so she knows that it’s okay to make a mistake and that it’s more important that she tries. Yikes, I’m so not cut out to be a teacher! LOLDecember 8, 2017 at 12:25 pm #4596
At the same time, I’m trying to let her be a kid. I feel like there’s so much pressure for kids to excel at this or that. The skill sets are so far from where they were when I was a kid. And everyone is like “Do you think she’ll make it into the GATE program?” (GATE = Gifted and Talented Education program) It’s crazy! I want my kid to be smart and have great opportunities but yikes! The pressure!December 17, 2017 at 5:31 pm #4630
Awww, she is too cute. It is both cool and weird to see so much of ourselves in our kids, I think. Rhett does the same thing, where he looks for facial cues to see how he is doing when he is reading, writing, etc. It is a skill we constantly work on, and he has worked on it in speech. I think it does get better as they gain skill and confidence. I have seen massive improvements. OMG, same here…there is no way I could be a teacher on a daily basis. Yeah, I do what I do with Rhett, as a Mom. But, a teacher? Not for me! I truly love and respect what teachers do, because it is so stinking hard.
Right there with you about GATE (they call it TARGET here, which drives me crazy, because I always think people are talking about the store haha!). It is cool if they do stuff like that, but in the long run, it’s not a big deal at all. I did it as a kid, and it’s not like I walk around with that badge of honor. It all changes once they get to middle & high school anyway. It’s great if they do it, no big deal if they don’t. I agree with you about the pressure. As a parent, I definitely don’t want some crazy pressure on my kiddo for stuff like that.
Rhett was tested last year in kindergarten for it, and did not make it. I think he will always be on the borderline, just not quite getting there. That’s the type of kiddo he is. They re-test in 1st grade, 3rd & 5th. So, he did not get it this year either. I have mixed feelings about it. From the parents and kids I’ve talked to about it, it sounds like some like it, some don’t. It’s very different than when I was in school, so I see both sides of the coin. I just want Rhett to do well in school no matter what classes he takes, and forge a successful path that he feels like he wants to travel down.January 10, 2018 at 9:47 am #4732
I started Malia in gymnastics. She’s been asking for it for awhile now and I found a program that works for her (and my schedule). I’m excited for her. She’s really enjoying it so far. I like that it will give her both strength and flexibility. I’m also hoping that it will help improve her appetite and burn off her energy. 🙂
There’s a ninja program offered by the school too that has a mix of gymnastics, martial arts and parkour that I’m thinking of enrolling max in. That kid needs something to do. Little lazy butt. I just need his t-ball schedule and then we’ll see.January 22, 2018 at 10:53 am #4737
Yay! That sounds fun. Can’t wait to hear how Malia likes it. That will definitely keep her busy. Haha Max! That program sounds fun for him. That would get him up & moving. Is he excited to do t-ball? Did you find a good little league program near you?June 21, 2018 at 12:07 pm #5093
Well, we’re trying to move Malia to her own bed during the summer. We’ve created a ton of incentives for her that she’s really trying to embrace. So far so good. She’s sleeping in her bed but still finding her way to my bed some time in the night. We’re hoping it gets longer and longer as the summer passes.
The bad part is that I miss her so much that I end up tossing and turning, listening for her to wake up. lol Summer of 2018 is going to mark a big turning point for her, I think. She’s going to be less my baby and more my growing girl. I hope I handle it well. lol She’s gonna move into those awkward tween years before I know it and she’s only 6.June 29, 2018 at 7:25 am #5105
Good luck Mary! I know it will be a big step, but you will both embrace it in the end. You know we’ve never allowed Rhett in our bed (I don’t judge, I was just strict from the get-go about it). But, one thing you could do, which is what I do, is I go in there in the mornings (when we have time, mostly weekends), and get in bed and cuddle with him. And he loves it. If Scott tries to go in there, forget it! He wants his cuddle time with Mommy. I’ll take it while I can get it because, like you said, he’ll be grown up too fast and probably never even want me in his room. So, we still get cuddles and snuggles, and it’s like a little routine. If we have extra time, we read a few books together too. Maybe you could establish some kind of routine as incentive, like you go in and hang with her for Mommy/Daughter time when you can fit it in your mornings.December 11, 2018 at 5:57 pm #5516
So, Rhett still can’t tie his shoes or do buttons for squat! It drives me crazy, cuz I know for a fact that when I was his age, I was able to do that stuff by myself. I feel bad because I know some kids are just slower to develop certain skills than others. Rhett swam earlier than every kid we know, he rode a bike earlier than a lot of kids, he potty-trained early and easy. Lots of other things he does well and I have to give him credit for. He does a lot of things really well, shoe-tying and doing up buttons are not some of them! We even have him practice, and that really doesn’t seem to help. Honestly, Scott can barely tie a shoe decently as an adult! So, then I’m like, okay, I see we have a genetic component here haha!December 12, 2018 at 10:06 am #5521
Malia just learned how to tie her shoes. I doubt Max will learn as quickly as she will because he’s lazy. lol He likes it when mommy and daddy help him. But set-up the electronics to his specs? That’s all Max.December 12, 2018 at 5:48 pm #5530
Max can come be my tech-guy in a heartbeat haha! These kids will outpace me in no time!!
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